I think I’m a guy who lives a well-balanced life. I’m the guy who works 35 hours a week, spends what he makes and only what he makes. I’ll drink water instead of pepsi, I don’t do alcohol or drugs or meat. It may sound boring, but it really isn’t.
Working only 35 hours leaves me 5 hours a week to write, 5 more to train/climb/yoga and as much time as my kids really needs. I live fully every day, taking small victories when they come and live struggles as a part of existence.
I write almost every day. I find painting emotionally fulfilling. I am rarely ever stressed at work. Sometimes money gets tight as hell but I’ve lived with it in the past. I’m rarely just sitting at home, often go out to explore new parts of my own city. I go to the park with the girls, I go see art exhibitions, I climb, I create…you get the idea.
I think I’ve always been frugal by nature. That came with being straight edge. I take pleasure in certain things of life that may seem “small” but that are really all that matters : love, family, writing, art, good food, breathing and sunlight.
Life threw a few wrenches my way last year and I am now a single dad. I’m selling my home and looking to move into something slightly smaller in a better neighbourhood to cut down on my costs and commute.
This is what I call the art of compromise. Moving there will mean a smaller space but if I cut it to only what I need in terms of material, then that space will be all I need. It will reduce my commute by almost 30 minutes a day once everything is settled and it will clear about 200 dollars a month for me to put anywhere else I need (Dee’s college fund for example – which is WAY overdue!) Doing those small compromises in many facets of my life will allow me to increase my overall happiness.
So I’ve made the list of material things I actually use/need in life to make me happy at home as I’m looking to move now.
As they say, less is more but you do need these to be happy:
This what I actually need in life (in terms of material possessions)
Art on my walls
Books (only what matters)
2 sets of sheets, 2 pillows
One living room table
TV is ok.
Good speakers are mandatory!!!
One surface to prep food
One kitchen table
Full kitchen wares as cooking is the stuff of life.
Good knives for a change
One cute bench for the balcony and sitting outside.
Washer/Dryer at home
Still on the fence about a dishwasher
Broom and mop + bucket (no vacuum cleaner)
Girls get as much arts/toys/clothes as they NEED in their room (NO TABLET!!!!)
Bunk bed, two sets of sheets each
Book case (for both books and toys)
Box of legos
Box of dolls
FULL box of arts supplies
Lots of pens/crayons/glue
One small table with chairs
Set of toy train dee likes.
Never really played boardgames that much…
Clothes all they need
Necessary things for art and writing:
One work surface/desk
Laptop (no tablet)
Drawing table (optional but desired)
Set of Sakura pens (yes, less is more but you need real good tools to create)
One set of razor blades,
One set of paintbrushes
Clothes I actually need in life
Appropriate amounts of boxer shots and socks
4 pants (three clean, one dickies for work)
Bunch of t-shirt (from devastatingly old to almost recent)
5 dress shirts (2 white, 2 black, one gray)
Adidas superstar shoes (1 pair)
Winter clothes (1 winter jacket, 1 pair of boots, one snow pants, two pairs of gloves, one scarf (maybe))
Minimum amount of things I need for fitness
Set of training bands is enough to work out every single muscle
Three pairs of shorts
Considering starting snowboarding again (we’ll see)
Minimum amounts of tools necessary to home life :
Drill, bits, screws,
Small box of plaster,
Electrical tape, marrets
Two steel shovels, (because CANADA)
Bigger jobs are rare, rent or borrow as needed.
That really looks like about it for my home life. Everything else is optional and/or is to be considered a “treat”